Staying Motivated

Business guru Michael Gerber notes that the people who want to be in business for themselves are often the least qualified people to do so.

It seems the traits that make you unhappy working for the man are the same traits that make it hard to run a business or contracting service effectively. One of these traits is the ability to stay motivated.

If you’re strongly self-motivated in a regular job, your boss rarely has to come provide that motivation for you. This means you don’t clash with your boss, and you have less reason to go out on your own. If your boss is always riding you, one possible reason is that you’re not as self-motivated as he would like.

Without your boss, you have less stress in that department — but there’s nobody to motivate you but yourself. If you’re not great at self-motivation, you’ll need to find an outside source.

  • Set deadlines, even when your client hasn’t provided you with one. Meeting your deadlines is a valuable skill on its own, and gets you in the habit of staying motivated.
  • Finish the day with notes and planning. This will mean you occasionally think about your work over the rest of the day — and leaves you excited about sitting down to write in the morning.
  • Find an accountability partner, somebody who you report your progress to and who ride you if you fall behind. In general, your spouse is the worst possible person to fulfill this role.
  • Give yourself time off, whether it’s a day in the week or a week every quarter. When you have a job, your vacation time burns a hole in your temporal pocket. As a freelancer, it’s tempting to work all the time.
  • Write down your goals someplace visible — such as a piece of paper at your desk, or in dry erase marker on your bathroom mirror. When you feel unmotivated, look at your goals.
  • Remember why you’ve set the goals you’ve set. I’m lucky enough to have a 21-month old reminder crawling about underfoot right now. Maybe your reminder is a photo of your next big vacation, or simply a dollar amount.
  • Schedule your workday. If you wake up with a general idea of “write,” you’ll have little motivation to get started and no benchmark to celebrate success. My workday gets broken down in 2-hour chunks, each with its own specific assignments. I get a charge out of crossing off each item in turn.

There are plenty more. I’d love to see a comment or two on how you all motivate yourselves.

While you’re at it, check out this interesting video on motivation.


Thanks for listening.

Recursive Request

Hey all, I’ve been blogging out into the universe for the better part of the year. You’re kind enough to give me feedback from time to time, and I’ve gotten a few offers for sponsorship. I guess that means I’m occasionally reaching people. So that’s good. As a professional writer, I deal with requests and instructions from editors every day. Sometimes it makes the work better. Sometimes it’s frustrating*. Either way, it’s part of the work. I’d like to ask you all for some editorial advice. Since January, I’ve covered topics ranging from finding clients to organizing finances to resources for writers. What topics would you like to see me cover more of? Less of? What would you like to see that you haven’t seen before? I’m looking to y’all for advice. Comment down below and I’ll do what I can. ________________

*For example, an editor on a health and fitness website who wanted me to eliminate a source I used. Seems the editor thought Arnold Schwarzenegger was a "politician and actor, not an expert in bodybuilding."

Friday Fun on Monday

Just like “Breakfast for Dinner,” sometimes I like to keep things fresh by turning things upside down from time to time. For today’s Friday Fun, I want to introduce you to a handful of websites writers can appreciate.

25 Successful Authors Speak About Writing

Rebel Blogs for Edgy Writers

Writing Careers for the 21st Century 

101 Reasons to Stop Writing

Dave Barry on Writing Humor

Literary Jester: Interview with Christopher Moore

Have a safe and happy Halloween, friends.

 

 

 

 

 

 

Halloween Special #4: Fear and Worry

And when it has gone past I will turn the inner eye to see its path.

Although you might expect different from me based on my most recent posts here, I’m going to spend today’s installment encouraging you to respect fear.

Fear is a healthy emotion. It’s your psyche’s response to perceiving legitimate threats to your health and safety — a survival response evolved over millions of years. As security expert Gavin deBecker says, it’s a gift that helps you stay safe.

Worry is no gift. It consists of focusing on the things that could go wrong — often to the extent that your worry interferes with your ability to prevent the calamity. Worry distracts you and increases your stress level.

If you re-read the other posts in this series, you’ll come to an inescapable conclusion. What I’ve been describing as “fears” are more accurately described as “worries.” Because they’re worries, they share several traits in common:

  • They’re abstract — not direct threats to your life and health, but rather perceived concerns about a theoretical quality of life.
  • They’re not happening right now — people worry about the future, not the present.
  • They’re generally under your control — fear is about things the world does to you. Worry is about what you do in the world.
If you have a legitimate, present fear about writing for a living — such as a huge monthly debt payment you won’t make without your full-time job — that’s a good reason to put off your plans to become a writer.

But.

If only your worries are standing in the way, that’s no reason not to get started. You’l overcome those worries fastest by watching yourself succeed despite them.

Halloween Special #3: Fear of Family

This one gets a little personal.

A freelancer doesn’t fit the usual mold for a western family. You don’t work nine to five. To many, you might not even appear to work. In some relationships, this situation can be fraught with peril.

  • Your spouse might have trouble accepting that she goes to work while you stay at home — even if she intellectually understands that you’re working.
  • Your family will have trouble not interrupting you while you’re at work.
  • Your spouse may not respond well to the perceived instability of freelance work — or to the ebb and flow of getting paid by the job.
  • Summers, your children won’t understand why you can’t play with them all day — at least until they’re teenagers and have no use for you anyway.
  • Your spouse might ask you to take on more household chores than you can handle while also doing well as a freelancer.

Put more simply, your family can be one of the biggest roadblocks to your success as a freelancer. I’m not a relationship expert — and certainly no expert on your relationship. What advice I have for you consists solely of my experience.

 

I started freelancing after I sold a reasonably successful small business. For six months, I ramped up my writing career while staying at home. My wife worked her job in the school district. Although she understood intellectually what I was doing, two things bothered her.

  • In the beginning, I wasn’t bringing in a lot of money.
  • A part of her chafed under the role reversal of me being the “stay at home” spouse.

I ended up taking a more-than-full time job selling insurance*. It kept me out of the house 10 to 12 hours a day, including weekends. My wife was responsible for her job and the house. It was so rough on both of us, to this day we refer to that time as my “stupid, poopy insurance job.”

When I quit, I had two things going for me. I’d found a client who could pay me as much as my wife was making, and my wife had decided she liked having me at home.

Since then, we’ve navigated around respecting my work hours — and found balance between my caring for the house and kids, and making my deadlines.

How about you? What have the freelancers out there done to keep your families happy with your career decision?

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*Interesting side note: two years later, I’ve made significantly more money writing about insurance than I ever did selling it.