A Tale of Two Fairies

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We were all born without teeth. We didn’t need them, and wouldn’t have asked for them if we knew how. Nobody had told us about fresh corn on the cob yet, so we were happy with breast milk. Besides, our food came with a free cuddle. Life generally rocked.

Eventually, we got teeth through no fault of our own. A few years later, we lost those teeth. We lost most of them because in life you lose those teeth, a few from accidents or a playground fight. Enterprising kids thought of ways to lose a lot of teeth at once so they could cash in on the Tooth Fairy.

Because whenever we lost a tooth, the Tooth Fairy gave us a gift.

It’s the same with the fuck fairy.

The what now?

The what now?

See, we’re all born without fucks. Just look at a baby — that little bundle of joy gives exactly zero fucks. He’ll cry in front of everybody at the mall, and sit for hours in his own shit. When you were a baby, somebody had to keep reminding you not to slam your head into nearby walls. Zero fucks.

As you grew up, though, you got a whole bunch of fucks. Your parents started making you give a fuck about rules. Your classmates made you give a fuck about your looks and popularity. In your teens and twenties, dating and work supplied a cornucopia of fucks to give at random about a whole raft of shit that doesn’t really matter.

But here’s the great part.

You can lose those fucks. Some of them you lose because as we grow up our priorities change. Not a lot of grownups with kids really give that many fucks which metal band somebody else likes the best, or who said what about whom at the office. Others we lose as we become more confident with ourselves, or from the accidents and struggles that define us as we grow..

When you lose those fucks, thus reducing your total number of fucks given, the fuck fairy comes and gives you gifts.

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She gives you the gifts of focus, motivation and clarity. She grants you the gifts of confidence, moxie and chutzpah. When you waste your energy giving fucks about things that aren’t worth a fuck, it saps your strength and fills you with doubt. When you lack spare fucks to give to anything but the most important things in your life, you can give those few remaining fucks the attention they deserve.

 

Remember how I mentioned that enterprising kids thought up ways to cash in on the Tooth Fairy? We’d dream of ways to lose all of our teeth so we could afford that new bike or game. Some of us (who shall remain nameless) even tried to counterfeit teeth. That doesn’t make us bad people, no matter what our elementary school principals said, it just…

Anyway, the point is that enterprising people can also become enterprising about losing their fucks. For me, that process was part of my martial arts training and early world travel, then capped off by having my sons. Other folks might need therapy, or coaching, or just regular time to sit quietly and assess their priorities.

Whatever your process for losing fucks has to be, make that process part of your life. Identify what matters most to you and yours, then give all of your fucks to them.Extraneous fucks you can shove under a pillow and smother to death, or you can shoot them through the pillow like a mob assassin in a movie.

You don’t need them anymore.

 

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